Once a Guy Loses Interest Can You Get it Back? - The Narcissistic Life (2023)

Last Updated on May 30, 2022 by Alexander Burgemeester

Once a guy loses interest can you get it back? Yes, you can get a guy’s interest back once he loses it because he was once captivated by you.

Your job is to figure out what’s changed and fix it. Most men don’t just wake up one morning and decide they’velost interest, it’s a process.

Maybe you slowly started letting yourself go, you stopped respecting him, or did the sex become boring or missing in action? Whatever the reason, if you fix these issues by getting your sexy back, and treating him with respect, yourrelationshipwill most definitely improve. But before fixing it, you need to know the reason why he lost interest.

Table of Contents:

  • Reasons He Lost Interest
  • Get his Interest Back
  • Do guys get interested again?
  • How do guys act when not interested?

5 Possible Reasons Why He Lost Interest

Menlose interestin their partners for several reasons. Before you can fix the problem, you need to know what it is. Here are five possible reasons why men lose interest

1. You’ve Let Yourself Go

Women have a tendency to get offended with this one because after being in arelationshipfor some time, they think they’ve earned the right for their partner to love them for who they are.

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This is true; a man should love you for who you are. But in most cases, that’s not why he got with you. Men are visually stimulated.

When he first saw you, he was instantly attracted to you. You were slim; you dressed well; you wore nice perfume. When he came to visit, it was clear you’d made an effort.

But now, you’ve put on a few pounds, and you don’t make anywhere as near as much effort as you did with your physical appearance than when you first got together.

2. You Don’t Respect Him

Men don’t need love, they needrespect. When a man feels his woman is disrespecting him, he shuts down. Marriage expertShaunti Feldhahnconducted a study into the needs of married men and discovered that their strongest desire was to feel respect, trust, honor, and admiration from their wives.

On the other hand, she found that the wives of these men had no desire for respect. Their highest need was to feel loved and cherished in therelationship.

So you might think you’re doing all the right things by lavishing your partner with love, but in other areas, you disrespect him.

For example, you don’t trust his leadership, and you’re always challenging him. If he decides to take on a new business venture, instead of trusting that he can do it, you question him like a child.

But because the dinner’s ready and the house is spotless when he returns from work, you think you’re doing the right thing. But little do you know, he’s dreading coming home to face your criticism and would rather be with a woman who respects him than keeps an immaculate household.

3. You Are Not Trying to Improve Your Life

Maybe you’re the type of person who’s always talking about what they’re going to do, but you never do it. Every year, you make the same new years resolution, but you never follow through.

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After a while, he’s going to get tired of hearing your excuses. You say you want the body of your dreams, but every time he comes over, you’re laying on the couch eating chips!

To make matters worse, yourguyis a go-getter, he’s always out making stuff happen, and your lack of drive is off-putting to him.

4. You Act as if You Don’t Need Him

Men need to feel needed. It’s their biological and sociological nature to be providers and protectors. This is how they express their love, and it’s what makes them feel validated.

If you didn’t make him feel this way at the beginning of therelationship, he wouldn’t have committed. So things were good at the start, but for whatever reason, the dynamics of yourrelationshiphave changed.

Do you remember how excited he got when you’d ask him to do stuff for you like wash your car, or help you get something out of the attic?

That was because he felt needed, he was excited because you gave him the opportunity to express his love towards you. But now that you’ve got a promotion from work, and they’ve given you a company car, you’d rather take the car to the valley service because you feel they do a better job.

Now that he’s working extra hours to save for a house, instead of waiting until he has the day off to help you get stuff out of the attic, you get your brother to do it. Can you see the pattern here?

5. The Sex is Boring

If yourguyis a freak, he’s going to get bored very quickly with missionary all the time. Like food, men like variety when it comes to sex.

Eating the same meal every day isn’t going to satisfy him, and neither is having the same type of sex all the time. He’s told you what he’s into, but you refuse to compromise. He likes the lights on, but because you’re insecure about your body, you want them off.

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He asks if he can at least put the lamp on to get a glimpse of you, you refuse. He wants to try out one new position, but you’re not comfortable with it. He wants you to wear sexy lingerie, but that’s too erotic for you, so you refuse. Can you see how ridiculous this is getting? Of course, he’s going tolose interest.

How to Make Him Interested Again?

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How do You Get Back With Someone Who Loses Interest in You?

When men lose interest, you have to get them interested in you again. If you’re willing to put the work in, you can definitely make it happen. You’ll need to come up with a plan and stick to it whether it looks like it’s working or not. Now, what you don’t want to do is start acting desperate.

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That will only drive him further away. All you need to do is start living your best life, and I don’t mean posting selfies on social media with the caption hashtag living my best life. Actually, start living your best life. Start working out and eating healthy foods; get the qualifications you need for that promotion.

Start that side hustle you’ve always been talking about. When you start making progress, he’ll want to know all about this new version of you.Now that you have an idea why your boyfriend may havelost interestin you, it’s time to get to work and ensure you capture his attention forever:

#1 Show Him What He’s Missing

Dedicate yourself to getting the body of your dreams. Focus on looking so hot, he doesn’t recognize you.

Once you’ve reached your body goals, post a few pictures to your social media. Since he’s never seen you looking so good, you’ll immediately get his attention.

#2 Focus on You

Because most women are trained to be nurturers, they have the tendency to forget about themselves to take care of everyone else.

This is especially true when they get into a relationship. For however long you’ve been together, all your attention has been on him. You make sure he has breakfast, lunch, and dinner, that all his meetings are in his diary.

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You keep track of all the birthdays of his friends and family members.

Basically, you act like his personal assistant, and you’ve spoilt him. He’s become so used to you doing everything for him that he takes you for granted.

Well, now, it’s time to stop being his right-hand woman and start taking care of yourself.

He’ll want to know why you’vesuddenly lost interestin him. It will make him realize how much you actually do for him, and he’ll start appreciating you more.

#3 Spice Up Your Sex Life

Even if you think you’ve got a good sex life, take it up a notch. Start incorporating new and exciting ideas into the bedroom.

Speak to your partner about his fantasy’s and as long as you’re comfortable with them, start fulfilling them.

Start having sex with your partner more often, and step out of your comfort zone.

And for the prudes I mentioned in the section above, you need to step your game all the way up!

#4 Go Missing in Action

Have you heard the saying, “absence makes the heart grow fonder?” well,studiesactually prove that this is indeed true.

The Journal of Communications recently published a study that discovered couples in long-distancerelationshipshave a deeper connection than couples who see each other regularly.

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The author of the study, psychologist Crystal Jiang states:

The reason why couples in long-distancerelationshipshave a deeper connection is that they are more focused on building arelationshipbased on trust, making plans for the future, and having meaningful conversations.

Whereas couples who see each other all the time end up taking each other for granted.

Whether you decide to go on vacation, or have a staycation, let your partner know you’re going away and that he won’t be able to reach you during that time.

Send him a quick message when you arrive, and then shut off your phone.

Trust and do believe he’ll spend the entire time you’re away thinking about you.

On your way back, tell him he can pick you up from the airport; he’ll jump at the opportunity.

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#5 Take up a New Hobby

People with a passion are interesting, and you want to know more about what drives them.

Instead of having the same boring, shallow conversations, they speak enthusiastically about the new projects they’re working on.

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You’ll never be bored around a person passionate about their hobbies. Find a new hobby, for one it will give you something to do that you enjoy.

And for two, it will add another dimension to yourrelationshipbecause now, you’ll have something that you’re passionate about to discuss with your partner.

#6 Learn How to Respect Him

In broad terms, respect to a man means that the woman he is with trusts him. She believes in his abilities and in his potential.

Respect from a woman to a man says I think you’re competent and more than capable of fulfilling your role as a man.

Nevertheless, respect means different things to different people. Additionally, there may be behaviors you exhibit that make him feel as if you don’t respect him.

So have a conversation with your boyfriend and find out what respect means to him and if he’s ever felt disrespected by you.

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#7 Make Him Feel Like a Hero

Men need to feel needed by nature. They’re providers and protectors. When men don’t feel needed, they’re not fulfilled, and they’ll start looking outside the home to get this need met.

James Bauerrefers to this as the ‘hero instinct,’ and women who know how to trigger it in men will always have the upper hand in arelationship. Here are four ways you can trigger the hero instinct in your partner:

Praise and Celebrate What he Does

Does yourguyplay sports on the weekend? Maybe he’s a doctor who’s dedicated his life to saving lives. Whatever he does, praise and celebrate him for it.

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Let him know you’re proud of him. You don’t need to go over the top with it; the praise could be in the form of a hug, a kiss, or a meal to let him know that you value him.

The more you praise him, the more effort he will make in perfecting what he does.

Boost Him up in Front of His Friends

Men are tribal, and they enjoy being around their friends, but what they like even more is for their friends to know that their woman thinks they’re awesome.

Again, there’s no need to go over the top with this, but when they’re around, you could say something like, “I didn’t know I’d save myself hundreds of dollars a year marrying thisguy.

He might be an accountant, but he’s a professional mechanic. I haven’t had to take my car to the garage once since we’ve been together.”

Tell Him He Makes You Happy

Men need just as much reassurance as women, but theirs is slightly different.

A man needs to hear that he makes you happy, that all the effort he puts into doing things for you are appreciated, and they are exactly what you need.

This strategy works in the same way as praise. The more you let him know he’s doing a good job, the more he’ll want to do for you and make you happy. So it’s a win-win for both of you.

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Ask For His Help

As mentioned, men come alive when their women need them, so the key is to make him feel needed by getting him to do stuff for you.

Also, it can’t be any old random tasks he knows you could do yourself.

You’ll need to think about this one or it will backfire. Instead, he’ll start finding you annoying, needy, and lazy because he knows full well you could have done it yourself.

But here’s a scenario that might come in handy. It’s freezing outside, and you know that your car takes at least 15 minutes to warm up, but you’re running late and want to have breakfast before you go to work.

Ask yourguyto go outside and warm the car up while you make breakfast.

He’ll be more than happy to alleviate the stress of you having to sit in a freezing car for 15 minutes.

Additionally, you can go around your apartment and see what needs fixing. Give him a list, that will keep him busy for the next few months.

#8 Stop Acting Needy

I can hear you already, “but you’ve just told me to act like I need him?” I know, but there’s a fine line between him feeling needed and you acting too needy.

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A needy woman is someone who demands constant attention. She’s forever talking about her problems, and there’s always some type of drama going on in her life that she needs a man to resolve. She’s not comfortable with herself and needs constant validation from men.

#9 Reconnect With Your Feminine Energy

The more you connect with your feminine energy, the more you’ll connect with your man’s masculine energy. This is especially true if you’re dating an alpha male.

If yourguyis more of a beta type, you tapping into your feminine energy will encourage him to step up his game.

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Feminine energy is about receiving, allowing, trusting, being present, self-expression, and being true to self.

Masculine energy on the other hand, is about pushing things forward, competing, directing, future thinking, planning, doing, analyzing, providing, protecting, and initiating. Here are five ways to connect with your feminine energy:

Embrace Your Creative Side

When we hear the word, ‘creative’ most of us think of art, poetry, music etc. Some people will even say they don’t have a creative side because they don’t fall into any of those categories.

But everyone has a creative side, your creative side is the thing you do best that comes naturally to you.

It could be making people laugh, cooking, or solving math problems. Whatever it is, indulge in it more and start working on perfecting it.

Explore Nature

People feel at peace when they’re out in nature because it’s a powerful consistent force that ebbs and flows in an unbreakable cycle.

Nature helps us understand ourselves better, and it’s deeply connected to feminine energy hence the term ‘mother nature.’ The greenery of a forest, the blue of an ocean, and the depths of a valley all facilitate peace of mind.

Instead of waiting until you feel out of sync to engage with nature, make a habit of going for a walk every day.

Laugh More

Men love positive women. They love to see a woman smiling. Think about it, who wants to be around a miserable person?

Also, laughing more is good for you;scienceproves that the feel-good hormones released when we laugh help build a stronger immune system, relieve stress, and improve mood.

The happier you are, the more potential you hold, and the more your man will want to be around you.

Sharpen Your Intuition

Intuition is the feeling you get when you know something isn’t right. It’s not about knowledge or intellect.

You just know. It’s easy to miss your intuition because it’s a subtle nudge that doesn’t fight for your attention.

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But you always know when you miss it because when you’re sitting in the consequences of your mistakes, you’ll remember the moment you felt you shouldn’t do it.

You can avoid missing your intuition by sharpening it. Here are three tips to get you started:

Sit in Silence

Have you ever tried having a conversation with someone who won’t listen? It’s difficult right?

Well, that’s how you’re intuition feels when you’re surrounded by noise and clutter all the time.

You can tune into your intuition by sitting in silence for five minutes a day. It’s best to do it first thing in the morning, just sit in a quiet place, shut out all the noise, close your eyes and listen.

Release Your Emotions

I don’t like using the term ‘negative emotions’ when describing emotions such as fear, anger, or sadness.

Society has labeled these emotions as negative because they cause damage when they’re mismanaged. But they are natural human emotions that, when managed in the right way, benefit us.

Emotions are designed to be released. We have no problems releasing ‘positive’ emotions such as joy, gratitude, and love.

But because of the labels attached to ‘negative emotions, ‘ people have a tendency to bottle them up. When these emotions are internalized, they can harm us.

You can release your emotions by talking stuff out. If you have a disagreement with your partner, instead of holding onto resentment, let him know how you feel.

You can also release your emotions through exercise, a good workout will help get the adrenalin flowing and help free any trapped emotions you’re carrying.

Be More Present

You can become more present by focusing on what you’re doing now. Most people are not present, they either live in the past or live in the future.

In other words, they’re either thinking about something that has already happened or thinking about something that’s going to happen.

When you find your mind going in different directions other than what you’re doing at the moment, bring it back.

Learn How to Receive

By nature, women are receivers, but many women are not living in their natural state and prefer giving over receiving.

This is because low-self esteem has taught them they are not worthy enough to receive, and their value is found in giving instead. I know a lot of women like this, and it’s a very unnatural state to be in.

They burn themselves out being givers and then get upset because they’re not appreciated by the people they spend so much time helping.

The problem isn’t that they feel unappreciated. The problem is they’re not flowing in their natural state, and they don’t feel valued because they don’t value themselves.

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You can learn to receive more by accepting compliments with grace, accepting help when it’s offered, and by restricting your giving.

Enhance Your Sexuality

What happens when you dress sexy? You feel sexy right? Putting on a dress, wearing a pair of heels, a dash of lipstick, and some perfume make you feel instantly sexy.

Pay attention to the way you move when you’re dressed up and when you’re dressed down. There’s a huge difference. When you feel confident, you act confident.

Get into the habit of wearing sexy underwear every day. Sex therapistRachel Needlestates too many women only make an effort when they know they’re going to have a sexual encounter.

But wearing sexy underwear daily makes you feel sexy and confident.

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#10 Start Having More Fun

Most people like children because they’re so carefree. They just go with the flow and have fun no matter where they are.

We all know that life can be challenging at times, but letting your hair down every once in a while will take the edge off things.

Some fun things you can do with your partner include paintballing, skydiving, bungee jumping, treasure hunting, and fruit picking.

Do Guys Ever Come Back After Losing Interest?

Well, that depends on theguyand why helost interestin you in the first place. Some men will come back; others won’t.

Unfortunately, there is no definitive answer to this question. He will come back if he realizes helost interestfor superficial reasons. You didn’t do anything wrong; he just got bored because he wanted something new.

Well, he went out, got something new, and discovered that the grass wasn’t greener on the other side after all.

On the other hand, theguywho might not come back is the one who had a valid reason to call it quits. He’s checked out mentally and emotionally, and there’s nothing that can convince him to stay.

What Does a Guy do When He Loses Interest?

He’ll start ignoring you and focusing his attention on what he finds interesting! It’s that simple, really. But in general, here are five things he’ll do when he loses interest:

He Acts Defensive and Rude

You literally can’t do anything right, it seems as if everything he once loved about you, he now hates. Your high-pitched voice was once music to his ears, and now it’s an irritant.

You used to make the best lasagne in the world, but now it’s got too much salt in it. He knit picks at everything you do, and he’s constantly causing unnecessary arguments.

When guys start acting like this, it’s because deep down, they know they don’t have a valid reason forlosing interest.

So to make themselves feel better, they push you away in the hopes that you’ll get fed up and leave. Basically, he’s a coward and doesn’t have the guts to tell you he wants out of therelationship.

He Stops Answering the Phone

These days, you can never get him on the phone because he doesn’t answer it. And he has plenty of ready-made excuses as to why.

When you do manage to get through to him, the conversation is stale and dry, a stark contrast to the hours on end you used to spend on the phone talking about anything and everything.

He Always Has an Excuse

Whether he’s got to do overtime at work or he has to take his mom to the doctors, he always has an excuse for not seeing you.

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When you try and make plans, he’s got something going on. If plans have already been made, he’ll cancel at the last minute. These are all signs your guy loses interest.

He Stops Noticing You

He used to be very attentive and noticed you anytime you changed your appearance. If you got a haircut, had your hair dyed, got your nails done, or you’re wearing a new outfit, he’d notice and compliment you.

Not anymore, you could be standing in front of him naked, and he’ll act as if you’re invisible.

He’s Stopped Talking About the Future

All your future plans appear to have gone down the drain. That vacation, his sister’s wedding, your dream home are all forgotten conversations.

When you bring it up, he swiftly changes the subject. He’s acting like this because he’s erased you from his future. He can’t see himself being with someone he’s not crazy about.

Final Thoughts

If you ask any happily married couple who have been together for twenty, thirty, and forty years how they stayed together, they’ll tell you they weathered the storms.

They will tell you there were plenty of times they were on the brink of divorce, but they made a choice to remain faithful to their vows.

If you want a strongrelationship, it’s going to take some work. Implement the suggestions mentioned in this article, give it more than one hundred percent, if it doesn’t work, at least you know you tried.

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Can a guy who lost interest come back? ›

Yes, you can get a guy's interest back once he loses it because he was once captivated by you. Your job is to figure out what's changed and fix it. Most men don't just wake up one morning and decide they've lost interest, it's a process.

What to do when a narcissist loses interest in you? ›

  1. Don't seek them out. ...
  2. Don't have any lengthy conversations. ...
  3. Watch your tone. ...
  4. Don't share with them anything about your life. ...
  5. Go to anyone else but them for positive reinforcement. ...
  6. Stay calm and unobtrusive. ...
  7. Let it be an acting challenge. ...
  8. You want the narcissist to stay cool.
Oct 5, 2021

Do narcissists lose interest? ›

Narcissists lose interest as the expectation of intimacy increases, or when they've won at their game. Many have trouble sustaining a relationship for more than six months to a few years. They prioritize power over intimacy and loathe vulnerability, which they consider weak.

How do you get a guy interested in you again? ›

Show genuine interest in him to put him at ease.

If you told someone you weren't interested in them and then you start to like them, start up a conversation and ask questions about how he's been. That way, he'll feel like you really care, which may make him start thinking about you again.

How do you fix someone that lost interest in you? ›

Here are nine things you can consider trying if you're starting to feel like your partner is no longer attracted to you.
  1. Focus on your own self-worth. ...
  2. Remind your partner why they were attracted to you from the start. ...
  3. Make an effort to understand your partner's needs. ...
  4. Communicate what you're feeling.
Nov 21, 2018

How do I make him feel the spark again? ›

Once the communication is back on track, try these seven tips to reignite the spark:
  1. Boost your dopamine —together. ...
  2. Kiss more often. ...
  3. Remember what it was like when you first met. ...
  4. Make a list of sexual possibilities. ...
  5. Keep the mystery alive. ...
  6. Get in touch with your own sexuality. ...
  7. Seek out a sex coach.
Aug 12, 2016

How do you get a narcissist interested again? ›

How to Make a Narcissist Come Crawling Back
  1. Give them the silent treatment.
  2. Post lots of pictures on social media.
  3. Go out with your friends.
  4. Start dating other people.
  5. Make it clear that your relationship is over.
  6. Control your emotions around them.
  7. Set clear boundaries.
  8. Stop seeking their approval.
May 26, 2022

How can you tell if a narcissist loves you? ›

The best way to know if a narcissist loves you is by looking at their behavior over time rather than just relying on words or expressions of affection. If they are consistently putting your needs first, even when it doesn't directly benefit them, then it may be possible that they truly care for you.

What happens when a narcissist loses someone they love? ›

They experience rage

A narcissist typically goes through anger and rage once they learn of their loved one's death, especially at the loss of one or both of their parents. They may feel confused over the shame and guilt they feel over the death of their parent for example.

Do narcissistic partners come back? ›

Yes, they often do come back to relationships. A narcissist will repeat their cycle of abuse as long as they need you as a supply. Even their distressing discard performance will leave you in a firm belief they're done with you; a narcissist will come back.

Do narcissists ever let go of relationships? ›

Breakups with narcissists don't always end the relationship. Many won't let you go, even when they are the ones who left the relationship, and even when they're with a new partner. They won't accept “no.” They hoover in an attempt to rekindle the relationship or stay friends after a breakup or divorce.

Do narcissists get over breakups? ›

People with high levels of narcissistic admiration experienced less anxiety and sadness after a breakup and maintained positive perceptions of their exes. They were also more likely to initiate a breakup and attribute it to their lack of interest in their ex.

How long does it take for a guy to like you back? ›

According to a large 2022 study, men tend to say “I love you” more quickly than women. It takes men an average of 108 days (about 4 months) to confess love and women an average of around 123 days (about 4 months).

How do you get a guy to regret losing you? ›

Initiate a Talk

If you want to make him regret losing you, use this talk to remind him of how you two had a fun and meaningful time together. If he left you for another person, remind him that what you two had was special – maybe even meant to last and nothing, no one can compare to that.

What he thinks when you don t contact him? ›

He could feel angry or upset.

He might think you're being rude or fake, and may even try to confront you about it or get a rebound girlfriend in response. Anger usually gives way to remorse after a few days or weeks and is a normal response to breakups or the silent treatment.

Can lost feelings come back? ›

Even if your relationship has been stale for years, if both of you are willing to work things out despite losing feelings for each other, it can eventually come back. Trust me on this one: feelings of “love” come and go, it ebbs and flows.

Why he lost interest in me? ›

4 Reasons, why he has lost interest

Sometimes, life gets busy unexpectedly. Things could ramp up at work, or someone close to him may be ill or even have died, or he could be dealing with family drama, which means he has no time or energy for a romantic relationship.

When a guy loses interest suddenly? ›

Something in his life has changed.

When a man loses interest in you, something has often changed. But that probably doesn't mean you did. Think about how many times in your own life a new opportunity, plan, or idea has come forward all of a sudden. This can happen to your guy too.

Can a man fall back in love with you? ›

Yes. You can fall back in love but it almost always requires learning new ways to love and communicate with each other. Usually there are also a few underlying problems that must be addressed as well in order for the love to be able to come back."

How to make him want you by ignoring him? ›

So let's look at ten ways to ignore him to get his attention.
  1. Ignore and fuel his ego. This method allows you to control how he feels. ...
  2. Become less available. ...
  3. Get busy. ...
  4. Play his game. ...
  5. Stay back and watch him come. ...
  6. Show your worth. ...
  7. Don't be easily triggered. ...
  8. Ignore some of his texts.
Aug 6, 2021

How can I make him feel like he has lost me? ›

Scroll down for more information.
  1. Let Him Know That You Are Prepared To Walk Away. Save. ...
  2. Do Not Let Him Take Away Your Efforts In Vain. Easier said than done! ...
  3. Prioritize Yourself. ...
  4. Remind Him That He Is Not Your Only Option. ...
  5. Make Yourself Busy. ...
  6. Go For A New Look. ...
  7. Take A Break From Replying. ...
  8. Do Not Try To Please Him.
Dec 19, 2022

How long before a narcissist comes back? ›

How long does it take a narcissist to come back? In most cases, the narcissist will come back at you immediately after you put in place the no contact rule. Considering how important their ego is to them and how they need that constant attention from their partner, they would come for you immediately.

Can a narcissist change if he wants to? ›

Narcissists can change if they are ready to accept accountability, able to see things from another person's perspective, and willing to reflect on their negative behavior. Because narcissism is such a complex personality trait, changing a narcissist can be much easier said than done.

How do you restore a relationship with a narcissist? ›

How to heal from a narcissist:
  1. Remember why the relationship needed to end and set clear boundaries. ...
  2. Develop self-regulating tactics to soothe yourself and practice self-care. ...
  3. Take up space and reconnect to yourself. ...
  4. Understand why you found them attractive in the first place.
Jan 7, 2021

Who does a narcissist fall in love with? ›

The unfortunate truth is that narcissists do not really fall in love with people. They fall in love with their projections of whomever they currently idealize as the perfect mate. They can sound convincingly in love, but that is because they temporarily believe in the fantasy version of you created in their mind.

Can a narcissist ever truly love someone? ›

Narcissistic personality disorder (narcissism) is a psychiatric disorder characterized by a pattern of self-importance (grandiosity), a constant need for admiration and attention, and a lack of empathy for others. Because of this lack of empathy, a narcissist cannot really love you.

How do you let go of a narcissist you love? ›

  1. Go no-contact—absolutely no-contact.
  2. Just go. No lingering goodbyes.
  3. Consider blocking common friends.
  4. Write down why you left.
  5. Assume that the narcissist will move on quickly.
  6. Give yourself time to grieve.
  7. Keep yourself busy.
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Jun 16, 2016

What is the grief of leaving a narcissist? ›

Losing the narcissist is no different to any other major loss in life. It provokes a cycle of bereavement and grief (as well as some kind of mild post traumatic stress syndrome in cases of severe abuse). This cycle has four phases: denial, rage, sadness and acceptance. Denial can assume many forms.

What is the end of life for a narcissist? ›

This is what happens to a narcissist in the end: they become insecure and helpless. They realize they can't charm anyone, so they grow submissive and lonely. In the end, aging narcissists become needier yet quieter, finally accepting that people avoid them as they all know his/her true nature.

What triggers the narcissist to want you back? ›

To make the narcissist want you back, remind them of what they're missing by showing them you've got plenty of new supply to give. What is this? The narcissist thrives on external validation. Because of their deep-rooted insecurities, they cannot love themselves, and they seek affirmation from outside sources.

How do you know if a narcissist is finished with you for good? ›

They ignore everything you say.

At the end of their abuse cycle, a narcissist wants to make sure you feel worthless. They'll tune out your remarks and avoid your questions until you feel invisible. If it seems like they're stonewalling you 24/7, it's likely they're getting ready to end the relationship.

How long can a narcissist go without contact before they reach back out to you? ›

The narcissist can go for weeks without speaking to you, with the implication being that you need them more than they need you. You will be the one to beg for forgiveness and acquiesce to their demands. Sometimes the silent treatment never ends.

How do you know the narcissist has moved on? ›

30 Signs that a narcissist is finished with you
  1. The narcissist no longer hides their true colors. ...
  2. You feel the change. ...
  3. The narcissist will no longer give you love bombs. ...
  4. They are constantly irritated with you. ...
  5. The narcissist ignores everything you say. ...
  6. They criticize you. ...
  7. They are always distant. ...
  8. A narcissist will gaslight you.
Mar 28, 2022

How do you break a trauma bond with a narcissist? ›

Although the survivor might disclose the abuse, the trauma bond means she may also seek to receive comfort from the very person who abused her.
  1. Physically separate from the abuser. ...
  2. Cut off all lines of communication as far as possible. ...
  3. Acknowledge you have a choice and can choose to leave the relationship.

How long do relationships with narcissists last? ›

According to Dr. Darlene Lancer, many narcissists can only sustain a relationship for six months to a few years (at the most). Keep in mind, though, we're talking about one four-stage cycle. Too often, a narcissist will initiate the cycle again, training their target to expect them to come back.

Do narcissists get heartbroken? ›

While people with narcissism aren't devoid of emotions, their motivations may be self-focused. They can know they're hurting your feelings, but as long as it elevates their status, they may not care. Someone living with narcissism does cry. They can feel regret, remorse, and sadness.

Do narcissists move on quickly after a breakup? ›

A narcissist might also get into a new relationship right away to cope with the pain of breaking up with you. Feeling that there's someone else giving them attention and praise might help them heal a bruised ego or return from a narcissistic collapse.

How long does it take to break a narcissist? ›

"It is widely quoted that it takes an average of seven attempts to leave an abusive relationship." Narcissistic relationships usually begin with covert emotional abuse (perhaps just mild criticisms to start with) which slowly ramp up as the recipient grows accustomed to it.

Should I wait for him to decide what he wants? ›

Waiting Lets Your Partner See How Much You Care

Maybe they've just come out of a long-term relationship, or they simply don't move as quickly as you do. By giving your partner time to make their decision, you're not only respecting their wishes, but you're also showing them they're worth waiting for.

How do you test if a guy likes you back? ›

10 Ways to Find Out Your Crush Likes You Back
  1. They Look At You. ...
  2. They Are Interested To Know About You. ...
  3. They Ask About Your Status. ...
  4. They Are Nervous Around You. ...
  5. They Make Extra Effort To Talk To You. ...
  6. They Find Excuses To Surprise You With Lovely Gifts. ...
  7. They Always Look For Excuses To Spend Time With You.
Jan 13, 2022

How long does it take for a guy to come back after no contact? ›

Roughly 4 weeks of time alone should be enough to get back into the normal rhythm of the single life. It might feel messy and strange at first, but after 30 days you may find yourself feeling much better.

How do you make a man regret ignoring you? ›

15 tips to make him regret ignoring you
  1. Express your feelings (to him) One of the most direct ways to learn how to make him regret ignoring you is by being upfront about it. ...
  2. Get your story straight. ...
  3. Be less available. ...
  4. Spend time with friends (especially mutual friends) ...
  5. Block him. ...
  6. Pursue other options. ...
  7. Conclusion.
Mar 21, 2022

How do you make him crave for you? ›

How to make him want you more: 8 tips to make him crave for you!
  1. Call him by cute names often:
  2. Keep him guessing:
  3. Touch him unexpectedly:
  4. Small changes do make a big difference:
  5. Compliment him often:
  6. Take him down the memory lane:
  7. Give him ample space:
  8. Smell good at all times:
Dec 13, 2016

How long does it take a guy to realize he misses you? ›

So, a few weeks to two months is the answer to the question, “How long does it take for a guy to miss you?” Typically, men realize what they lost when they can't find a woman with their personality. By then, they learn not all women are the same, and they shouldn't have broken off the relationship.

Does no contact make a man miss you? ›

Use the no contact rule

Does no contact make him miss you? Yes! One of the best ways to use silence after a breakup is to cut off all means of communication. That includes going silent on social media after a breakup.

What happens when a guy starts losing interest? ›

If you notice your man pulling away, it might be because you're emotionally unequipped. This means you're not happy with yourself and your man can easily become your sole source of happiness. This will suffocate him and in no time, he will distance himself from you.

What does it mean when a guy suddenly loses interest? ›

Something in his life has changed.

When a man loses interest in you, something has often changed. But that probably doesn't mean you did. Think about how many times in your own life a new opportunity, plan, or idea has come forward all of a sudden. This can happen to your guy too.

What to do when a guy shows interest then suddenly backs off? ›

  1. When a guy acts distant, forget and move on.
  2. Do not blame yourself when a guy acts interested, then suddenly backs off.
  3. Indulge in self-care.
  4. Get yourself back in the game.
  5. Express your feelings when a guy acts weird around you.
  6. Don't let emotions take over you when a guy shows interest, then suddenly backs off.
Nov 1, 2021

Will he come back after no contact? ›

Yes, they can. People find their way back to their ex if they realize how much they miss her. This may happen if you spend much time together during your dating phase. Also, if he keeps seeing something that reminds him of you, it may be hard to let go.

Does no contact work if he lost feelings? ›

The No Contact rule will work if he has lost feelings to either make or break the relationship. If this distance makes him realize that the relationship was never stable, his feelings might not change.

Does no contact work on emotionally unavailable man? ›

Most of the time no contact with an emotionally unavailable man or woman works because it gives them the space and the time they need to think about themselves and their relationship. Often dumpers do come back because they have had the time to reflect on their actions and emotions.

Is he Confused about his feelings for me? ›

When a man is confused about his feelings, his behavior might be erratic. He might make you feel desired and give you all his attention during the 'hot' phase. Then he may pull away just like that and act cold when he feels like he's catching feelings for you.

How do you know he is fighting his feelings for you? ›

His behavior is inconsistent

Another way to tell that he is probably fighting feelings for you is if his behavior is inconsistent. He may be flirtatious and showing off one minute, then acting all awkward and shy the next. Or he may be attentive and then suddenly ignore you.

What to do when a guy pulls away? ›

Give him space; stop worrying about what you did to turn him off. When he withdraws, it can negatively impact your ego and self-esteem. So, shift your focus – get busy or distracted. Don't stop your daily routine and don't feel guilty about focusing attention on yourself.

Why do guys continue to text if they're not interested? ›

Why do guys text you if they're not interested? They're confused. Some men are not sure about their feelings either; so they buy themselves some time until they're sure. They continue to text to show a level of interest but not too much because they know they can't promise anything at that moment.

Why do men act interested then go cold? ›

He feels unworthy of love deep down inside, so is trying hard to control his own nervous system and feelings. Guys who run hot and cold could be trying to get closer to you, but when hey feel they're not enough, could pull away love out of fear. He's emotionally unavailable.

How long is the pull back phase? ›

Three months is probably the most frequent time that I see people breaking up, deciding they don't want to step it up to a more serious stage, which does include agreeing to be in a committed relationship, saying “I love you,” and more of a groove.

Why do guys leave and then come back? ›

There are several reasons regarding what makes a man come back after a breakup. He may have changed his mind and wants to date you again, or he may feel like he messed up when he left you. It is possible that his other plans didn't work out the way he thought they would.


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